From Shakespeare to hit songs. From movie quotes to the name of the restaurant down the street- “Love is Blind” has become a popular idiom used often to describe the sensation and results of true love.
However, I believe this little line can cause a lot of trouble. Before blind love can ever flourish, blind lust has already been born.
Blind lust forms in the beginning stages of a relationship. You may only know the surface qualities of your mate, and you believe them to be infallible. When they pick you up late for a date, you brush it off assuming they tried their best. You get in a quarrel, and sooner than later you decide that you were the one and only culprit. Before too long, your friends are telling you to dump them, but you insist that they don’t truly know him or her the way you do. You parents mutter under their breath that you simply cannot “see it” because you are “in it.” However, your “in it” blindness further propels you to believe it MUST be love, because love is blind! If any of these symptoms describe you, please look at these red flags and make a serious and prayerful reconsideration. Being blind to one’s faults does not prepare you to be a good lover, nor a stable person when those curtains get drawn!
But now… Let’s talk about LOVE.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
Love is not BLIND to wrongdoings; Instead it is fully aware of them, but chooses to not keep a record of them. Love is acknowledging that your spouse is imperfect, but loving him anyway. Love is coming home to a dirty house when your husband said he’d clean it, but being patient and understanding. Love is to be excited for your spouse to find the job of his dreams, not being jealous that you have yet to find yours. Love is knowing about his past, but not resenting him for it. Love is getting into a fight and admitting you are the one who is wrong! Love is saying “I am sorry.” Love believes that marriage has NO OPTION of divorce. Love endures a miscarriage. Love endures temptation and affairs. LOVE endures ALL THINGS, because LOVE is the greatest of all these: Faith, hope, love.
True love is not blind, it sees. In fact, Love sees past the problems and mistakes and the imperfections. Love sees the big picture. To be good lovers, we need to understand that we are not perfect ourselves. We are so unworthy of the love God unconditionally and unlimited-ly gives us. Likewise, I often feel I am unworthy of the love of my husband, but he continues to give it, because he gets it. He sees past my mistakes, and in doing so, he reflects the great and unlimited love of our Father. And if I’m not perfect, I cannot constantly expect my husband to be- and thus there is Love. True love, that keeps no records of wrong, but loves all the mistakes out. Like Christ who loved all of our mistakes out.