In Junior High, I was sitting down in our makeshift computer lab working on an assignment. The boy next to me kept inquiring about my best friend at the time, whom he had a crush on. I don’t remember the specifics, but it was probably a lot of – Does she like anyone right now? Would she like me? Has she mentioned anything? yadayadayada. Then it turned into less questions and more of a narrative- She’s absolutely beautiful… so on, and so on. I was used to it, she was pretty popular, and I was easy to talk to. Eventually, I asked what made her beautiful in his eyes. He then broke it down for me, there were differences and levels of looks among the young girls in our class. There was cute, beautiful, or sexy. I, he said, landed in the “cute” category. I think he had said all three were equal, but separate; He wasn’t rude about it, but it obviously made an impression on me.
I want to tell you, these three things are not completely isolated from one-another. We are not just cute. We do not need to compare ourselves to the sexy ones, or wish we had just a little more to push us over into the beautiful category. In fact, in every human being all three attributes exist. Although, each attribute needs to be nurtured and manifested.
CUTE : appealing and delightful; charming:keen, clever
I believe Cute is expressed in the quirky personality traits that make each individual unique. The way one throws their head back when they laugh, how they dance when they clean, when they whistle as they work. The faces they make, the phrases they always use, their way of relaxing or socializing. Cute is the personality! Cute is how you express yourself, it is simply what makes you you and not them.
Beautiful : possessing qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about; delighting the senses or mind
Beautiful describes the heart. Do you love often, freely, without judgement or reserve? Do you give even when you cannot get? Do you serve, sacrifice, commit? Do you work with integrity? Do you run from evil, refuse to speak ill, and strive for God’s standards in your life? God has given us guidelines to beauty! The beautiful are those who pursue and bear the Fruit of the Spirit in Galations 5:22-23a:
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control
Beauty is your soul and heart. Through Christ’s sacrifice the ugly has been taken away, through the Holy Spirit we have the power and ability to grasp beauty, and with God’s word we can learn about the characteristics of true beauty that we should pursue.
Sexy : excitingly appealing; glamorous; sexually interesting or exciting; radiating sexuality
Everyone is created as a sexual being. God created sex, and encourages us to pursue sex uninhibitedly within the confines of marriage. You are sexy where you are, and you are encouraged to celebrate that sexiness in your marriage! Do not compare yourself to the twisted, degraded, and degenerate form of “sex” in the media. Sex is to be your intimate secret, holy, unifying, knowing act between you and your spouse. You are sexy, God designed you to be.
I want you to know that YOU are CUTE, BEAUTIFUL, and SEXY! Believe it, Embrace it, and Live it in confidence.