“Marriage is hard, BUT it is worth it.”
I know there are a LOT of people out there who struggle in marriage, and wrestle with the idea of divorce. The divorce rate proves that much. Divorce is everywhere, but what about the flip side? How much marital support do we see in today’s culture?
It is easy to side with our dear friends, especially for fear of losing the friendship. When they come to us with the struggles of their marriage, it can be tempting to add on more reasons why their spouse has failed them. Quickly the line between sympathy and discouragement is blurred and we become part of the problem-adding another number to the statistic.
Except in the cases of emotional, mental, and physical abuse; what our friends need most is an encourager, a warrior in the battlefield next to them, a personal advocate for their marriage.
We need to step alongside our friends and let them know that they aren’t alone, because, like we’ve all been told, marriage is hard.
Maybe it’s time to put on some humility and let them see a few of our own battle scars.
We should remind them of all the good in their partner, share with them the strength that comes with each obstacle that’s defeated, and share with them that there’s light at the end of the tunnel if they would just.hold.on.
Really, if we attended their wedding, this is what we vowed to do. They vowed to each other for better or worse. Then all of the bridesmaids and groomsmen, all of the wedding guests, the father that walked down the isle and the mom crying in the front row, we all attested in that moment that we would fight for their marriage too- That they did not have to fight for it alone, and we would stand by their vows and by their marriage. So, that’s what we should do.
Have you ever felt tempted to join the negativity of marriage? Have you chosen to be the one friend who encourages marriage instead of encouraging divorce? What are some ways you can fight for your marriage and your friend’s marriage?
Drink water from your own cistern,
flowing water from your own well.
Should your springs be scattered abroad,
streams of water in the streets?
Let them be for yourself alone,
and not for strangers with you.
Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
be intoxicated[d] always in her love.
Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman
and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?[e]