When I am home alone, I do things I would never do if I knew someone was in the house.
I will sing loudly, practice animal noises, or even practice pretty and funny faces in the mirror. These are things I want to master before I ever display them publicly. This is silly, because none of these things are important or necessary skills.
I mean, how often does someone ask you to make a monkey noise? (Monkey I can do pretty well… but my cow impression, it sounds like a very confused sheep)
However, I carry this “in the closet” practice for a lot of things. My fear of embarrassment holds me back from trying anything out in the open unless I know I will succeed. Because of this I miss out on trying a lot of fun and exciting things.
The lack of failing in my life is equivalent to the lack of growing in my life.
-I’ll go to a yoga class after I’ve mastered the workout DVD I just bought at home.
-I’d love to sell things on Etsy, but I’m not going to open a store until I have a product I know will sell.
-I might take my husband up on singing on Sunday, once I’m satisfied with how I sing in the shower.
-I’ll go to that church event if I know that someone I know will be there and will sit with me.
Sometimes the fear of failing will keep you from even picking up a paint brush, or signing up for a class, or beginning the process at all.
I have to remind myself that the classroom isn’t for the perfect, it’s for the learning. The world isn’t for the successful it’s for the growing. The church isn’t for the perfect, it’s for the redeeming.
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All of this talk about starting embarassing beginnings and getting out of our comfort zone was spurred on in me from the Global Leadership Summit this year. This theme of uncomfortability seemed to brush over me with each speaker. As I listened, I learned that being uncomfortable can bring about 4 great things in you.
We learn what not to do every time we fail, and like a muscle the practice makes us stronger to succeed the next time.
Jim Collins quoted a rock climbing friend, “I’m not failing, I’m growing.”
He may not have been making it to the tip, yet, but he was getting closer each time.
The more we fail, the more we get used to it. Our courage, grit, and determination will all increase.
Ed Catmull of Pixar and Disney Animation Studios said, “If you get over embarrassment, it frees you up.”
Catmull even encourages everyone to fail. “Fail early and fail fast.”
- Meaningful Relationships
If we only show the twitter-perfect version of ourselves, then all of our relationships are shallow.
“We want more love, intimacy, belonging, and joy. The only path to those things is vulnerability.” – Dr. Brene Brown
Often we are uncomfortable in our own skins. If we could drop down the walls we’ve built and be completely and uncomfortably ourselves, we can begin to build character. We would have a life marked of being genuine.
In the end, being uncomfortable is a very powerful thing.
“It’s powerful, because we don’t like it. We work hard to get out of it.” – Liz Wiseman
What makes you uncomfortable? What have you done or learned in an uncomfortable situation?